Find solace in self-dependence

I think the most painful thing is being told you aren’t worth enough, or that someone you care about doesn’t love you anymore.

Whether this between friends, family or a significant other, it all hurts the same. I feel as if we all follow a pattern.

For us to feel secure about ourselves, we heavily rely on someone else to make us feel good. We rely on anyone but ourselves to make us feel worthy. The value of who we are is found in someone who doesn’t know you the way you know yourself, so why do we put our happiness in the hands of other people? People, more times than not, will let you down in one way or another. At the end of the day, all you have is yourself, and I think it’s important to depend on yourself rather than someone you care about.

The opinions of others are important to all of us. It’s a sense of fitting in and fitting within the social norm. No one likes to be the odd one out, so we rely on others to make us happy.

I don’t think it’s a bad thing. Sometimes their encouragements take us a long way, but if you place the building blocks of who you are in someone else’s hands, you’ve basically become a robot.

I’ve noticed a lot of us rely on our significant other. I mean, yeah, that’s what you’re supposed to do, but you’re not supposed to expect them to make your life feel like it’s a life worth living. I think it’s sad how people don’t realize their full potential when they get caught up in begging someone to make them happy. We put everything we have into someone in order to feel as if we’re doing well, and then when they leave, we aren’t the wholesome people we ought to be.

Yes, human interactions need connection like that, but you have to realize that you are a person with amazing qualities that are important whether someone tells you they are or aren’t.

To me, it’s very important to be an independent person. Being able to recognize your own qualities is what life is about. We spend so much time insecure because we feel as if we aren’t accepted that we forget all we have to do is look in the mirror to find the approval we are looking for. As people, we offer such different qualities. If we were all alike, things would be so boring and plain.

It’s OK to care what people think, but it’s not OK for their opinions to make you feel less of a human being.

We are so much more than our imperfections. We are so much more than the people who try to bring us down. There’s a whole world out there to explore; don’t get caught up in superficial things.